February 16, 2010
Don't Go To Bed Mad
READY8 “My husband and I have never considered divorce... murder sometimes, but never divorce.” ~ Dr. Joyce Brothers
AIM8 Has anyone ever offered you advice for a healthy marriage? Everyone talks about how to have a successful marriage at one point or another. Maybe you chatted with a friend over a cup of coffee, or indirectly discussed the idea while playing hoops with the guys. After the honeymoon phase ended and reality set in, perhaps you confided in a friend whose marriage you admire that marriage was not what you expected. Whether you’re single or have been married for many years, the one piece of advice that is given most frequently is “Don’t go to bed mad.” At first, you may think to yourself “Oh, that will never happen.” Unfortunately, at some point in your marriage, you will have a disagreement with your spouse that will leave you frustrated at bedtime.
Ephesians 4:26-27 says “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” As upset as we may get over a situation with our spouses, we cannot allow the devil to have an open opportunity to sow even one seed of bitterness and resentment into our marriages. Our society gives in too easily when the going gets tough. Divorce rates are absolutely ridiculous, and, unfortunately, the statistics are against us. However, there is hope! We must pause long enough to let God into our lives. If we do, He will give us insight that will allow us to open our hearts to forgiveness. You may have to swallow your pride and set aside your selfish ways in order to reconnect with your spouse. Believe it or not, you will truly feel better and God will grant you both a restful sleep that evening and joy anew in the morning. Trust me, it’s worth the effort and will sow seeds of love, trust and commitment into the promises of your marriage.
FIRE!8 Take a break and call your spouse (or a loved one) in the middle of the day just to say hello. Ask him how his day is going and simply listen to his response. Do not talk about yourself (if you can help it) and tell him you just wanted him to know you were thinking about him and you love him. Imagine what a difference you’ll make in the middle of his day!